& Many More!!!

If someone would have told me 10 years ago I would be married, I wouldn’t believe it. I was supposed to be the “Cool Auntie” with no children & no husband who liked to travel and drink margaritas before noon. At least that’s what I always told myself, lol! Anyone who knows me also knows that I’m a sucker for fairytales and would disappear at the first red flag that I recognized that would ruin my chance at a happily ever after. I had begun to build a reputation for myself due to my zero tolerance policy but that all changed when I met Co.

In 2017, I was experiencing my “year of No”. On my birthday, I told myself that I wasn’t going to allow myself to experience anything that I didn’t want to. I decided that I was tired of living life for other people and this was going to be my way of holding myself accountable. I began my year of No by declining all invitations. I’m a socially awkward person, believe it or not, and I hate going to public outings where I don’t know anyone. I also hate leaving my house to be around other people so, that “No” was an easy one! During this time, I hung out with my true friends and family. It was absolutely marvelous, darling!

Meanwhile, I was completely over the guys I had been dating. While some of them were good guys, they weren’t good for me. I’m sure that they’re out in the world making some demon goddess happy but heck no! I realized that something had to be done and I needed to do better for my sanity. I saw a post on Facebook from one of my “friends” where she mentioned how she met her significant other. She said she had prayed that she didn’t want another man to approach her unless it was going to be her husband. I thought that was a fantastic idea and I figured, it’s a new year, why not?! Clearly, everything I was doing wasn’t working.

I decided at that moment, I too was going to pray that I didn’t want a man to speak to me unless he was going to be my husband. Then, I decided to add a little ✨spice✨ and take my prayer one step further. I also added, I wasn’t going to look for him so he was going to have to find me. However, I wasn’t going to be picky because if I was going to ask for help, I couldn’t have stipulations. I was determined not to put myself out there & be as mean as possible.

A month goes by and I get a message from this guy who tells me he got my info from my cousin. I was curious as to which cousin it was because I didn’t talk to my family about my relationships or what I was looking for. Although my cousin and I aren’t close, that was the best gift she could have given me. I guess you can call it a letter of recommendation. Thanks, girl! I tried my hardest to test him to see if he was the one. I was so mean but he didn’t give up on me. I actually think it made him try harder. This meeting took place in July of the same year & I haven’t been without Co since!

Now look at me…

I tell you my story to say this. Don’t force yourself to be happy with the wrong person just to say you’re happy. There is no reason to settle with someone you dislike or someone who is abusive. There is no reason to be with someone who is cheating/has cheated on you (they aren’t going to change, they just get better at hiding it). Be with someone who loves you for you & who makes your heart flutter. 🦋 Be with someone who makes you laugh so hard that you pee a little.

I’ve found my forever with Co. Co, if you’re reading this, I hope you enjoyed your birthday & I can’t wait to spend many more with you. 🐧